In-Laws. Enough Said…

If you get married, you’ll have in-laws.  Every culture and country around the world has those jokes of the crazy in-laws.  But who wants a crazy, drama filled life?  In-laws are the foundation of the new expanded family you are now a part of.  So, here are some tips to an easy, happy life with the in-laws… believe it or not! P.S.  It’s never too late to create that family that you want.

  1. Direct Link to Who You Love. You can see this two ways. If you’re a son or daughter in-law… remember the one you love is a product of the family they came from- can’t deny them. If you’re a mom, dad, brother or sister in-law… remember the new family member is loved by your flesh and blood. Can’t deny them.
  2. Watch that Criticism. Once again, this cuts both ways. Put down your in-laws, you’ve put down your loved one. Either it’s your loved one’s family or their new chosen family. So, choose your words carefully. Read More

Raising Children- Basics We Can’t Do Without

We are flooded with what we need to do as parents for our children: give them activities, have a sense of humor, feed them well, make sure they sleep enough and have great friends, etc.   All true. But what are the basics that we truly can’t do without?

  1. They are Not a Mini-Me. Children are not you and will never be you. They are not here to be better versions of you. They are not here to do what you did not do. Children are here to live their own best life.
  2. Don’t Get Involved in a Power Struggle. Never demand something from your children that you know you can’t follow through without a power struggle. Fighting with children brings us down to their level rather than keeping us elevated as an authority figure.
  3. Give Them Space. Our entire purpose in raising children is to let them go. And every day you need to find ways to let them go a bit more. You are successful as a parent when your  Read More

Don’t be A Helicopter Parent to an Allergic Child

You’ve been to the doctor. Your child has allergies. Your doctor says your child could die from an allergic reaction. I’ve been there.

As a parent you our job is to protect our child from harm.   And so, we go into action making sure that not even a crumb of an allergen is near our child. We make sure that everyone has an epi-pen and knows how to use it. Food will not touch our child’s lips without an ingredient check. The schools, our community and all society will be taught all proper safety procedures for our allergic child.

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Help Kids Be Leaders Without Helping Them!

We all want our kids to be leaders- to be able to lead others or stand up for themselves.  Here’s my top five how tos.  What’s yours?

  1. Let Kids Make Mistakes: Mistakes build character. They teach us that we can overcome.
  2. Don’t Help: You read it right. Don’t help your child. Let them figure it out themselves. Always think- what’s the worse that can happen? If you can fix that scenario, let your child grow by helping themselves.
  3. Let them know:  “I expect you to lead.”: It’s okay to give our children expectations. It’s a stress that is valuable to their growth.
  4. No Phone 24/7: You want your child to be able to think by themselves without seeking advice for every little thing. If they are in a safe area, consider leaving them without a phone.
  5. Be a Model: Lead by example. Do good. Be good. And. . . make sure you let your kids know.

Coffee. Who doesn’t love that killer aroma? Drink a cup, black and caffeinated – it’s good for you. Drink it with sugar, drink decaf, can’t wake up without it but ultimately it’s bad for you.

So, what do you want for your kids? Are you okay with them getting into that coffee habit? Our town’s high school sells coffee to its students. I don’t get it. We take out the soda. We bring in the coffee. Is there really a difference?

Chances are kids aren’t drinking the stuff black. They’re not limiting to one cup either. All that caffeine makes them jittery, saps their calcium and makes them dependent. Of course we can then give them ADD drugs and vitamins. Something just doesn’t seem right to me.

What are your thoughts on kids and coffee?

Kids and Coffee: To Drink or Not to Drink?